The narrative that circulates in society influences the experiences that people have within it.
Many people feel that they are the reason why they are experiencing infertility. They believe infertility is due to their life choices, which have been impacted by age, sexual history, abortion, trauma, addiction, psychological state, etc. They accept this karmic burden and support it with medical and social theories that reinforce this identity.
The journey through infertility is often a very isolating and lonely process. When it comes to pregnancy and birth, our society supports it with baby showers, classes, big box stores, doulas, doctors, and midwives. The process of becoming pregnant is assumed. After many people become pregnant and turn into "public property" overnight, subject to everyone's unsolicited advice and uncensored experience, few discuss the often difficult and anxiety producing period of becoming pregnant that they may have initially experienced.
For many it is difficult to speak about a state, such as pregnancy, that is desired but has never been experienced and can only be conceptualized through what is learned socially and culturally. The narrative that circulates in society influences the experiences that people have within it. Stories of early onset infertility, recurrent miscarriage, and traumatic births might seem like full disclosure by doctors and medical systems that feel obliged to present all possible outcomes. However, even hypothesizing about an individual’s potential fertility or infertility can have a hypnotizing impact. It can be a destabilizing force and at times can even manifest the hypothetical infertility.
This is doubly true about trans-generational mythologies of fertility. The stories we hear from childhood into adulthood influence what we understand and how we connect to our sexuality and to our reproductive capacity. The subtle energetics that influence the endocrine system respond to negative and stress-induced emotional self beliefs.
We must look deeper into the unconscious ways we influence a person’s connection to reproduction including the social, medical, and familial narratives that we sometimes blindly share. There is no one individual cause of infertility and no individual is the cause of the infertility they might experience.